WE NOW BREAK FROM REGULARLY SCHEDULED CONTENT FOR A BIT OF PERSONAL OPINION THAT IS NOT LIBRARY RELATED:
I was looking for a favorite quote today…
“We confide in our strength, without boasting of it; we respect that of others, without fearing it. “– Thomas Jefferson
and happened upon the Center for Academic Integrity at Clemson University. That particular link will lead you to a page of quotes that focus predominately on self-respect. As someone who as worked in academic administration and has worked with hundreds and hundreds of teens, I must say, Clemson is on to something. We keep bolstering kids self-esteem, but when do we ever tell them about respecting themselves, their space, their needs? Maybe this is why we have some kids feeling pressure to dress provocatively, not act with a sense of social responsibility, or live with a broader sense of long-term goals in mind.
Kind of reminds me of a speech one of my teacher friends recently heard. The speaker was a high school counselor who bascially said, “Enough of boosting self-esteem. Kids have tons of self-esteem. What we need are NICE kids…we need to create nice people who grow into nice adults”.
Yeah…what ever happened to nice? And why is that such a bad word?
Self-respect leads to a respect of others by creating a different kind of awareness. It requires a type of self-reflection that we don’t encourage in kids or train them to do. It’s time to start.
Be nice…have self-respect…I like that…pass on the message.